How many times over the course or your life have you said
"I have never looked at it that way" or "I wish I could see
things from your perspective?" Personally, I have said these two phrases
along with several very similar to them. But what is perspective? In my opinion
it’s subjective and difference for everyone and in every situation. But in
everyday life, there is a best perspective and worst.
What is that best perspective? If I knew the perfect answer,
I would give it to you. But I have found that it all boils down to two angles.
1: happiness and 2: a long term perspective. But what do these mean?
Happiness, joy, bliss, love. These are feelings of
happiness. But what if a situation sucks? For example: like a relationship
ending or a passing of a loved one or failing a test. Well, these situations may stink and may lead
to tears being shed, time of your knees pleading with the Savior, talking with
your best friend or even a combination of these and more. But isn't there
happiness all around still? YES, ALWAYS! When any of these things happen we
have things to fall back on: our family, our friends, exercise, our hobbies and
other things that make us happy that we don't notice. For example when a
relationship ends: we now have time to spend with our friends, exercise more,
and better ourselves. It's all about how we look at the situation in the
moment. We often miss out of the biggest opportunities of growth because we are
focused on the bad.
But all these situations last only a moment. Pain, sorrow,
guilt, failure all last only a small moment in the long term. However, we often
let these feelings dominate our lives later down the road. I am very much
guilty of this. We often let one failed relationship dominate our next one. When
a relationship fails, we get so torn down that we are afraid to start over. We
don't want to go on, we want to be bitter and hate idea of dating.
But in the
long term, there is something better. We let that mindset of failure after a
test dominate us in our homework. When that was just one test. The next we can
do better on. A wise man once told me "fail quickly." We let the
sorrow and pain of losing a family member dominate us for years to come. (While
in this situation it is okay to miss them and think about them.) But we often
don't think enough about the fact that we will be with them once again.
What I am trying to really get at is the timeless saying
"when one door closes, another one opens" and I would like to add to
it and change it: when one door closes, another one is waiting for us to knock
upon and open up. We have a lot of life to live, it’s not worth dwelling on the
times of hardship and pain. I challenge you all to look within, to think of
where your perspective currently is. Then change it in a way(s) so that you can
be happier and grow.
Thanks for reading!
Jewell Young
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