Socks are something we wear on our feet and we wear them daily. We change them daily because we get them wet, sweat in them, they feel gross and whatever other reasons. But if we don't change them our socks often become gross, hard, crusty and most importantly stinky when we take off our shoes. Now this is just one big analogy but why did I use socks? Well socks are changed daily, and we must also change daily. If we don't then we become gross, hard, crusty and stink when we do "take off our shoes" or in reality open up to someone.
Changing our "socks" daily, this is no easy task. But its a task that needed every single day in our lives if we do not change daily for the better than we are only hurting ourselves. But how do we change? As much I wish there was cookie cutter mold for change, there isn't. Then if there was I wouldn't have any purpose in writing this blog. But I do know that each of us, have something every day we can change, a habit we can begin to break, something we can do better, a way to live better and happier. But how do we do this? I would like to share what I've done and things I have found that helped.
First, I took a stand against myself. A stand against negative habits and things that were holding me back from happiness. For some this could be a deciding to make lifestyle change, planning and doing something we had been avoiding, planning to forgiving someone, calling for an appointment with a therapist/counselor or combination. It could something totally different. What ever you need to do, get up and make a plan, make a goal, then you will start to feel change happening and happiness coming into your life.
Second, I took action. I did what I planned. Started to met my goals. Took the steps I needed to start to see the change and be happier. This part of the process for me was by far the hardest. I want to share and experience of one of the hardest things I ever had to do: forgive my birth mother. One day, I felt ever so strongly by the spirit to call and forgive my birth mom for everything. For all the pain, sorrow, mental torment and emotional torment she put me though. I couldn't shake the feeling. I knelt down I said a prayer. Dialed the number and called her. Skipped the exchanging of greetings and forgave her not only with words, but I truly forgave her in my heart. Since this experience I have been happier. I look back and think of how I was living with that pain and hatred in my heart for so long. It had truly been hindering me. I challenge you to make that call, send that text, make that plan, set that goal or DO whatever YOU need to do to free yourself and be happy.
Lastly, I never looked back. I kept my chin up. I kept faith in God and Christ. I also keep the motto "Do better, be better" in my mind at all times. In the words of President Gordon B. Hinckley from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints "Try a little harder, to be a little better." I would just like to challenge you to add the word "everyday" to the end of this magnificent quote.
Now, I am in no means perfect. I am still learning how to be better, and do better everyday. I struggle with different trails in my everyday life. We all do. Yours and mine are different however. But I do know that we need to change our "socks" daily. If we don't our "shoes" will stink and our lives will be harder and the only person to blame is ourselves. I challenge every reader of this blog, to change for the better. Get on your knees and pray for the strength to do. Then get on your feet and go and DO! Then while you're doing, don't give it up! The battle is not easy. Its long and tumultuous. I can promise that change isn't easy. That life is not an easy battle. But, I know you can do it! HE knows you can do it! Your friends and family know you can do it. I promise that it will be worth it in the end!
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